Fit Life Adventure

An Ordinary Woman's Journey of Surviving Obesity

Where To Start – Blunt Motivation For Those Who Think They Can’t


In my dreams I am still obese. It’s strange that after all the work I have done on the mental side of weight loss, that my subconscious hasn’t caught up to reality. One day I know it will. I have learned a great deal about my patience threshold thought the past year or so. I have learned so much about myself in general. I am honestly not sure if I would feel this connected to myself had I not gone through this transformation. I probably wouldn’t. The most difficult part of changing one’s life is all connected to the brain. It’s the center of all our patterns and habits. It is impossible to have a healthy body with a negative mind.

Labour Day is around the corner and then it is back to routine. Back to the usual pattern of every day life. If you are looking to change your every day life, create new patterns and habits, then this blog post is for you.

You might think the very first step is finding your motivation. You’d be wrong. Even it was, I can’t tell someone how to find their motivation to change. And in this specific case, motivation to lose weight. Your motivation is ultimately going to be a product of your own life experiences. Whether you decide to change

your habits as an example for your family or a health necessity, that motivation will be yours and yours alone. I will also add that motivation isn’t a fixed thing. It can change throughout the journey. I would even venture to say that you could start changing your life without a clear idea of your motivation and likely find it along the way. A greater purpose is often revealed to us when we take huge leaps of faith.


The real first step is the making the choice in your mind to create a change in your life. Broken down into its simplest parts this means making a choice of commitment and repetition. Commit to yourself and to changing your life. Then repeat those changes every single day. Sounds simple right? It is in theory. It’s in the practice of these ideas where people can get tripped up. I urge you to stay the course.

The most challenging part of losing weight is living the mantra each day of commitment and repetition. You must let go of all the excuses you have used in the past. Stop talking yourself out of this! Any reason you have ever come up with to not focus on your health and losing weight has done nothing for you but hold you back and silence your abilities. You have to push fear of failure aside. All of this takes great mental strength. But you have the power to do this. You are so much stronger than you realize. The people who achieve their goals ALL had to start from square one. So why should you be any different?

You don’t need to have every angle figured out before you start. I didn’t. For me, it was almost a blind leap of faith. I knew I was changing quite a bit from how I normally eat and live. But change creates change – I was stopping one pattern and beginning a new one. I couldn’t really envision how things were going to go. While that was scary, I pushed through and learned to live in each moment instead of stressing about the unknown. It was a conscious decision every single day until it wasn’t anymore. In today’s society everything is available so quickly for us. We get frustrated if things aren’t happening immediately. Sustainable weight loss and improved health will never be one of those things. I had to wait and so will you. This is how I developed incredible patience. Remember there is no deadline for weight loss. Whether or not you can see or feel this change right away, by choosing something different for yourself you HAVE changed and you ARE changing. Enjoy that feeling. The feeling of being renewed, refreshed. Commit to to it, repeat it. The external results will show in time.

Know that you are worth change. You are worth the hard decisions you will have to make.  You have the power and you are in control. Harness that strength. It is not reserved for special people, it is in all people. You know it isn’t going to be ”easy”. Every person on this planet has “good days” and “bad days”. Can you imagine how great a feeling it is to have a sense of accomplishment on a “bad day”? I guarantee you no one has ever looked back on a day like that, having still stuck to their new healthy life patterns, and felt any sense of regret. What you will feel is empowered and unstoppable. The rough days will build you up even greater than you can imagine! Commit to pushing though the bad days, because you will absolutely have to repeat it. Everything gets easier the more you do it and the “bad days “ won’t seem so bad for very long.

Do yourself a huge favour and stop focusing on the end result. No need to do that at the start of your journey. You might be like me and will have a hard time even picturing what that will look like. You don’t need to picture exactly what you will look like or feel like. All you need to picture is that the change is possible. That the change will happen. The end result, just like your motivation, might morph into something different as you move through your journey. You are now in control, you are choosing better foods to eat and how you move your body throughout your day. You are creating amazing positive energy! Take that positive energy and use it to motivate you tomorrow, and the next day. Repetition. There are going to be days where you have to push yourself. There are going to be days where you don’t push hard enough. It is so important to feel the highs and the lows. That is how you find balance and that is how you find yourself.

Whatever personal turmoils you are going through do not define your entire existence. You are not your current situation. What defines you is how you deal with your current situation and how you emerge on the other side.

Deep breathe, re set your focus and begin again. How does anyone ever get good at anything they do? Commitment, repetition.


Author: fitlifeadventure

Health and fitness nut!

2 thoughts on “Where To Start – Blunt Motivation For Those Who Think They Can’t

  1. I so want to lose weight and I have tried almost every thing. I recently found out that I am diabetic. So I am learning to cut out sugar in place of sweetners. I.dont each out, I don’t eat chips or candy. I do eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. I eat a lot of chicken and fish
    I have severe back issues and a bad knee so exercise is.non existent. My mental health issues poor. I have very low self esteem and every day I feel beaten down. My marriage is in trouble and my husband doesn’t realize it. My son is abusing his girlfriend and is a bad alcoholic. So.the stress right now is at an.all time high. I just don’t know what to do to motivate myself at this Point. Any suggestions?

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    • Lots to respond too with this post! First, thank you for reaching out. As for being diabetic, I am not, so I can’t speak to that aspect. But I do know that despite medical challenges, we can ALL do better with our food choices. Always improvements and tweaking to be made so we can feel our best. And as the rest of your post mentioned, you could really use some feel good energy headed your way! I am sorry for all that you are dealing with. I can imagine the stress. My best suggestion would be to definitely tackle the stress component first. Food choices can help with that. Fresh veggies and lean meats will help feel your body with clean energy and give you a clearer mind to deal with your daily life. Meditation is super helpful. There is a free app called Calm. I highly suggest it. As for motivation, it’s such a personal thing. I’m not sure if I can help anyone find their own motivation. For me, it was that I just got so sick and tired of settling in life. I knew I was capable of more. I harnessed that passion for change and put it to work. My life isn’t always sunshine and sprinkles, and I will tell you that getting through the harder days and still sticking to my new lifestyle was beyond rewarding. Knowing that I wouldn’t let ANYTHING stop me was reaching my goals is such an empowering feeling, like you can conquer anything. I promise you, you CAN conquer anything. This too shall pass. We all like to wait until our lives calm down before making changes. In my experience there’s always going to be some sort of drama occurring around us. So best to just start small but start today. Good luck with your journey.


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